My husband and I undertook our first cycle with trepidation and excitement. This was it. We were sure this would work. I stopped running. I started doing yoga. I endured my first cycle, complete with shots and early morning appointments for the monitoring. No one knew. I was careful to ensure that the daily appointments did not interfere with my work. I wore long sleeves so that people could not see evidence of the every-other day blood draws. Even though I could have done the injections myself, I asked my husband to. He was gentle and compassionate (from a guy who is a type 1 diabetic) about sticking me with a needle (sometimes two) every day. The month went by, and ... nothing.
The day that my second cycle was to begin, the doctor came in whom I learned to loathe. She had a med-student with her. When they began the monitoring, she turned to the med-student and said, "see, this right here is why we cancel some cycles. She has a cyst that hasn't resolved. It will in a month or two." And then she looked at me and said, so call us next month. I was dumbfounded. I cried on my way to work. A month may not seem like that long, but when you have watched so many tick by with nothing, each month becomes an opportunity. Each month hat goes by with nothing is a loss. After a rough day, I decided to say screw it for a month.
Our second bedroom had remained unfinished and unloved for years, in hopes that a baby would some day give us reason to decorate. The day my second cycle was cancelled, I decided that I would no longer let that room taunt me. That weekend, we ran off to IKEA and bought a room's worth of furniture. We stopped at home depot and bought paint (but mind you, paint that would also go with a nursery, just in case). We turned our blah office into a gorgeous guest room, with yellow walls, white furniture with black and gray accents and our charcoal paintings of New Orleans on the wall. We lounged in the room and I loved that it became a place of happiness instead of a place that taunted me. That month, I didn't want to think about or care about getting pregnant. I didn't pay attention to anything that was going on with my body. It was a huge relief.